GIGGLES

Friday, April 4, 2008

Marriage question

So here's some thoughts pressing my mind. Serge came home from school today and he said that he heard something that made him sad. Serge is not an emotional guy. He was sad that so many people split up their marriage.
My question is, what is it that makes marriages work? You could argue that the spouse is never home or she doesn't keep the house clean enough. Hollywood would say their sex life wasn't good enough. However, some marriages seem to succeed with flaws and others don't seem to have any and yet they fail. How do you prevent something like this from happening?
Whether single or married, what are your thoughts...

5 comments:

The Taylor Family said...

How very sad. Some people seem to think that divorce makes everything better, but even in cases of infidelity, if the guilty person is repentant and both are willing to try to make it work again, their marriage can be stronger. No marriage is perfect, but I think there are several qualities that I've seen in couples that have been married and mostly happy for a long time--1) They look for little ways to serve one another and focus on their spouse's needs 2) They forgive each other and don't hold grudges 3) They let the little things go and focus on the positive qualities their spouses possess 4) They say positive things about each other, even when the other isn't present, and never engage in "spouse bashing".

The B3 Sutters said...

That really is too bad. I have a friend out here who says her husband of just a little over a year is too much of a disciplinarian with her daughter from another relationship and says "that will end my marriage." It makes me so sad because she was sealed in the temple, and I could never imagine saying that the promises I made to the Lord are null because I'm not happy with a certain situation. I don't get it- even those who don't get married in the temple, I never understood how "commitment" became "I will only if you will." Sad. Sad. Sad.

Liz W. said...

I don't know. I've thought a lot about this as the years have marched along and I remain unmarried. And, I've also observed a lot of marriages that are not appealing to me even though they remain married.

Amy said...

I think society has a lot to do with it. Divorce is so commonplace and so accepted now that at the first sign of trouble or unhappiness, people just quit because they can and maybe its easier to them then working on their marriage. Its so sad and breaks my heart, especially when children are involved. People are just lazier.

Gina said...

I don't have much experience, but I do know that it can never be about you. It always has to be about the other. When you both work that way, then you both are completely happy - despite all the ups and downs.